It was the hardest thing I had to learn.
That a memoir is not linear in a this- happened-and-then-that-happened sort of way. But with the help of a brilliant editor, I was able to extract the story, the one story I wanted to tell, from all the mish-mash that is my life.
Writing a first memoir can be tough because you tend to want to include everything. So you must constantly search for your story—and stay true to that one story until you get to the end.
You learn to meticulously, ruthlessly, toss out any detail that does not illustrate or illuminate this one story.
Because a memoir is just one slice of your life.
And each slice is different. Each tells a unique story.